Is it an Emotionally abusive Relationship ???
Truth is there are some very abusive people out there who knows how to attract their victims and bring their destructive tendencies along with them into the relationship.
Many women has been victimized by abusive men, it's sad but truth is most of us been through the same experience only because we can't spot the early signs of an abuser. Besides, It’s hard for a lot of women to be able to admit that the relationships that they’re in are emotionally abusive one.
I had the same experience, I was in a relationship where i has abused verballyand emotionally, since the very start of my Relationship that lasted almost 3 years , and it was really hard for me to admit it Or to speak about it.
My abuser threatened to kill me if I ever leave, my fear wasn't only that im going to be killed, but my abuser has described me a world full of abusers just like him, and I imagined a hell out there , so i stayed!
I stayed with whom i thought is another copy of every one, actually that what my abuser has convinced me with.
Matter of fact, love always has to blind us from the harsh reality that the way we are seeing our partner could be wrong , it's really hard to admit that the person we eat with , sleep with , hug and hook up with ! Could be a monster and our relationship is a bad one.
Abuse start out with cursing, screaming, swearing! and you will neglect that and til you escaped your abuser , til then you're goin to be a very damaged person, emotionally and mentally and spiritually.
The abuser will make you believe you're worthless, and you are only loved by him! he will destroy your trust and your faith to the world , he will feed you insecurity and you will believe that the only safe place is beside him.
Usually, abusers choose their victims, those who have weak and fragile personalities , they are just plain unaware of the abuse that is thrown their way on a consistent basis in the relationship. I know facing the truth is really scary, suddenly you're with somebody you just can't trust anymore because he's an abuser ! But You have to understand that the longer you prolong the trend of abuse in the relationship, then you are the only one who will end up suffering because of it. You can’t allow yourself to remain the victim throughout the Relationship.
That it’s why it’s absolutely crucial for you to know just what an emotionally abusive relationship looks like so that you arm yourself with heightened senses and a more profound understanding of the situation. I know lotta woman stuck in an emotionally abusive Relationship, can't take an action, can't take a decision, can't make a change, I know how it feels because sometimes it's really hard to walk away from that person completely, or force them to change for the better.
Either way, you can’t allow yourself to be content with the state of your relationship. You have to have the courage to stand up for yourself. Burn some bridges if you really have to.
If you're suspect your partner to be an emotionally abuser Here are the signs that you have to look out for in an emotionally abusive relationship:
1# He's rising his Voice when you're arguing:
You might wonder what so? Rising voices while you're arguing is a normal action, because nobody will care how to control the temper and stop fighting, but im talking about that person who doesn't hear what you say and he doesn't accept the act that he's wrong , he's just can't admit his mistakes so all he can do is rising his voice and ignore you.
They don’t really care much about your opinion on things. They only ever want to do what they want and they have no regard for whatever it is you have to say. To them, you are a mere object in their life. Moreover ,He is obsessively needs to win every arguments, then it means that they are more invested in being right than they are in actually making the relationship work. Sometimes, it’s a matter of being able to just let things go.
2# He is insulting you and demeaning you :
The Emotional abuse started with harsh words and insulting, when you're arguing the bad words comes out,
Your partner is constantly trying to destroy your self-esteem so that you have to grow more and more dependent in the relationship and in them. They do this by insulting you and demeaning you whenever they can.
Make you lose yourself confidence help the abuser to continue the emotion abuse.
3# He makes you believe that you're the responsible for all his toxic behaviors and he will put the blame on you :
Usually, he will make you feel like you’re just acting crazy all the time.
They will lead you to believe that all the toxic behavior that you think is happening is only coming from your mind. You will be made to think that you’re crazy and that you can’t really think for yourself.
Your partner will blame you for their own poor behavior.
Your partner will always deflect whatever responsibility or accountability they might have for their own actions. They will find a way to pin it on you.
4# He makes you think that he is the only ones you can depend on for love.
Your abusive partner will find a way to make you think that you couldn’t possibly survive on your own. This way, you will be made to think that you need to attach yourself to the relationship no matter how toxic it may be.
6# He doesn’t respect your boundaries :
You may still think that your sense of individuality is still intact, but your partner is trying to break it down bit by bit.
He won't leave a space for you to be on your own , he will not respect your boundaries, always around and by your side Trying to know what you are doing and you're with whom ! He doesn't respect your time alone , not your space and even your other Relationships.
7# He's good to you just when he feels like you about to leave :
They won’t ALWAYS be bad and toxic to you. That’s their game. They will act nice towards you just enough to make you hope that there’s still a chance for change even though the sad reality is that they’re only playing with you.
He will change the way he treats you once he feels like you had enough, he will play the victim and try to keep you with sympathy plays .
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