Why you should never contact your Ex????

         No one ever goes into a relationship with a future breakup in mind, that’s why when breakups do occur, it can come across as a shocking and traumatizing experience to the people involved especially when they’re inexperienced in the area. 

Its a messy phase during life, Breakups are really hard and painful, you will end up feeling disappointed, it's like a whole of a world goes down, too many emotions play there , you're​ anxious, sad, blaming yourself, alot of times you're feeling like you are draining forgetting that there's a life beyond the Relationship that you were in and the only thing you can do is to move on.

Truth is, No one ever likes having to deal with fallouts. And it hurts both , men and women... you're gonna cry alot of tears , and you are training​ your mind and your heart to deal with the idea of not having your loved one anymore. Sometimes couples break up over petty arguments and others break up over heavy lingering issues in the relationship.

Truth is, not every relationship is going to be a good one, it's a reality you should absorb it and not every relationship is going to be perfect.. break up happens and you only need to accept it and leave the Relationship in your past that's where it belongs.There is an entire future that is waiting for you, and you need to get on it.

Fact that moving on will be difficult, but it’s not something that you are experiencing for the rest of your life, it's temporary and time will heal your wounds now or later.
The important thing you need to do after break up is to always make an effort to avoid making contact with your ex. You don’t want to be starting something up again when you know you’ve been down that road before.. you should know upfront that it’s always going to be a bad idea. Trust me when I say this, contact your Ex after the break up will only bring you heartache you don't need , don't even allow him to be your friend you are going to suffer much more .

Here are a few reasons as to why that is:

1# You need the time away to heal your wounds :

Break up pain and Emotional wounds are difficult to heal. But truth is time heals all wounds, it takes patience and effort , there's nothing can speed up the time and heal you as fast as you want . But If you start making contact with your ex, then you are depriving time the opportunity of healing any wounds that you may have gotten throughout the course of your relationship.
These wounds are difficult to heal and it can take some people months, or even years, before they feel like they’ve fully recovered from a relationship. I know it's true , when I broke up with my Ex , he kept calling up my phone when he's lonely, sad or needs to Talk! In every call i was expecting him to say he wants me back! Every time! And he was convinced with the break up but the idea of not having me in his life was the reason why he was calling still! There was no love .
The point is that after a breakup, you will be left feeling particularly broken. That’s why it makes sense for you to only focus on yourself after a breakup, and make sure that all parts of you are whole again before you start opening yourself up to more pain.

2# You will definitely wake up in his bed in the morning :

Let's admit it , we all woke up in our Ex bed in the morning..and it was the most horrible mistake we ever did !
Personally, I did this ! Thought if we are getting intimate things will work out for the best ! But it was just the heat of the moment and then we are like strangers again!!!!
Calling your ex when you're drunk or just because you are missing him, and waking up in his bed in the morning won't save your Relationship! Believe me nothing gonna change, he's not going to miss being with you or trying to get you back because you already gave him no chance to do ! Being always available is reason to never work things out .

3# You are trying to save a dead relationship :

Remember you broke up for a reason, you broke up because there was no chance to get things back right as before, your Relationship is over and you've gone that road before and there's no point in traversing it again. You have to either move forward, or stay where you are at the moment and lick your wounds. Do not, under any circumstances, choose to go back. You are only choosing to return to a road that’s already been burned to ashes.
I have experienced this, going back to an Ex, keep him on contact, being friends! It's all wrong , because nothing will ever save your Relationship no matter how hard you try unless you both want to work things out again! It's a waste of time and energy on a relationship​that is already past its expiry.Making a room for your ex to contact you often creates no room for him to miss you or to think that he really lost you!
Contact means only you're available And there all the time to help, this way you're gonna just waste your energy and he won't cherish that you're trying to fix things .

4# You'll give him the satisfaction of knowing you aren't over him:

Contact your Ex is the only way to prove you still think of him ,If you and your ex don't communicate, they have no way of knowing if you've moved on or are still thinking about them.
As soon as you contact him you remove all that doubt. Even just a quick text or a call to ask how they doing shows that you still aren't over the breakup.

5# You will only look like a miserable person and It will make you seem much less appealing to your ex :

Just put yourself ​in the opposite, an Ex who can't stop calling your phone , trying to Talk , you may think that calling your ex will show how much you care and he will appreciate the effort and think that he must get you back ,But
That's not how it works. You'll either come across as desperate or a stalker, neither of which is a good look. He will feel annoying and he won't regret what he​ lost but he will be thankful that he left. Silence is the best option, don't call him because that mean basically that you want him back.. stop calling it's really unattractive, and this makes you less appealing, let him come to you when he only wants to , don't call Trying to get him back , nothing gonna change.

6# It will only delay you getting over him:

Contacting your Ex and trying to get him back only delay you getting over him and find somebody new, it's will only bring you pain and heartache especially when he's already moved on, When you call him, you're just prolonging the inevitable.
It's only by putting your ex out of your mind and finding yourself that you'll really be able to move on.Calling your completely derails that progress.
No matter how badly you want to call him resist the urge.You'll only drive yourself crazy trying to get win him back and fix things, this won't work at all , you just have to let it be if you meant to be together it will.

7# contact your ex makes it seems like you can't find somebody​ better than him:

It's better to leave your Ex alone, insisting and nagging won't make him back , in the opposite he will feel Superior , if you leave him alone he may wonder if you have found somebody better. The moment you contact that ex , it is very evident that you have not.
In fact, contact your ex make him think that he is the best you can do, and either you're now single or with someone who's not so great. and you can't move on and stop thinking about him.
This will just inflate their own feeling of self-importance, making them feel like they can do so much better than you. 

I broke up with my Ex after 3 years of a relationship , I know other Relationships last longer, I didn't accept the fact that we are over , and to make things right I kept in touch with him often , we talk on phone every day , we meet , we chat ! I was waiting for a second chance and he was ok with the current situation, we broke up and we can't get back and he's okay and comfortable with it.

I know how much you want things back, I have felt this before,You dream up these fantasies in your head of the life that you could have had together. You see it so vividly.

 I know how lonely nights you have cried, Trying to find a way to get it back , i Know how lonely you feel without him, but the problem is nothing's​ going to be same again. It's really Over . Move On.
It's ok to grieve, to cry, to feel empty , lonely and desperate, but you should stop hanging over your break up, don't give it a huge effort, it's really not okay to stagnate, life is in hurry , you have a future waiting for you, you shouldn't wait to survive a dead Relationship, you need to keep moving in life , take chances , and grab every opportunity you find, don't stop standing there waiting ! you can’t afford to let your ex hold you back. You have to understand that love is still a very real possibility for you, but getting back with your ex is downright impossible.
Open your heart for a new love and make sure to cut off all contacts with your Ex.
Now he belongs to the past, so leave it all behind you, it was an experience you should learn from and move on is a must now.

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Have you ever had the same experience to contact your ex? What did you do about it? Let me know ...