Are You dating a boy not a man ????
Well, if you think real men aren’t out there, you’re wrong. But if you feel like you're dating the wrong person always it's because You’ve probably just been dating too many boys who aren’t ready to grow up yet... its not about age If you think age has everything to do with being a man, you’re wrong about that too ..Age is just a number. It’s a man’s actions that define who he really is and where your relationship is headed. He is the leader to a successful relationship,
A grown man can exhibit the qualities of a boy, and a young man can exhibit the qualities of a man.
It just depends on his actions and where he is in life. Here are 7 signs you’re dating a boy, not a man.
1#You don't know if You’re Actually Dating:
A boy will make you play the guessing game ,feeling paranoid , asking yourself do you really dating!, you will feel like in a relationship and sometimes he will make you feel like you're not! It's not about you , sometimes your man isn't ready enough for a relationship, his fear if rejection or his fear if commitment prevent him to make the Relationship official.
He will tell you , you're just hook up, or you're just friends and sometimes he will say you're together but his actions are the opposite..
Besides , a boy will make you feel lost , you don't know where he is mentally and what he truly wants from the relationship. With a real man, there’s very little to guess about. He’s straightforward about his wants and needs and wants you to be clear about those wants and needs so you both are on the same page. If he wants to be with you, you’ll know it from the first series of dates. You won't guess, you won't wonder !
A man won't make you feel lost in the relationship, you will know your position from the very start .
2# He pretends you're not together front of his mates or front of other girls :
A boy will try to avoid walking with you in public, hand by hand , he will play the single dude front of others , just because he is not ready for commitment.
A real man will show you off, he will introduce you to his world , his family and his friends know about you and he's really proud to have you !
You only need to pay attention to your boyfriend behaviors! You don't really want to date a guy who avoid being with you in public!
3# He's flirting with other girls :
I have dated this kind of boys who flirt with every girl on earth ! his head just turned on when a female walked across his way... Its really bad ...
I know it is ..
A real man will ignore all temperation , if you're all of his concern no woman in earth will call his attention.
A boy will never respect you in your presence or in your absence, it's all same for him, he will flirt no matter what ! Don't allow a boy to make you feel worthless, you don't deserve to feel low for a boy who doesn't know your value.
4# You Feel Like You’re his Mom:
My ex was horrible, once he told me he loves me because im like his Mom!
And I liked what I heard the very first time ... Til I discovered what he meant to say !
His life was all mess without his mom , later without me ! His living place, his laundry is all undone til his mom comes!
He doesn't know how to do his things without his mom!
Later I become the mom !!!!!!
It takes a man to take his responsibilities and done it without your help and without his mom..
If you're dating somebody and you feel like you're playing the moms role don't expect him to change, These things probably won’t change because the boy you’re dating is looking for a stand-in-mom to take care of him, not a grown woman in his life. And he will never grow up no matter what !
For alot if men , video games serve as a source of stress relief after work or after a long tired day .. it's nothing wrong with a man enjoy playing video games , but when this become an obsession you must be aware of the situation... When your date can't stop playing games, spending his money buying the latest versions of it there’s a problem. A guy who gets so lost in gaming that he forgets about the existence of responsibilities is a boy, not a man.
6# He hates to see you succeed:
Boys are intimidated by smart women because they’re insecure about themselves, and their own intellect. They also fear they will have to step their game up to accommodate her needs, and they aren’t ready for maturity yet. He also fears how he will look compared to her to the outside world, particularly if she graduated from a more prestigious school than he did, or makes more money than he does. He may admire her success and drive, but is too insecure to fully embrace it. He’s comfortable staying in the comfort zone. A mature man is stimulated by a smart woman. He isn’t intimated by her, because he’s confident in his own abilities. He loves the way her presence compliments him and is proud that she’s in his life and he can call her his.
If you're dating a boy you will notice that he's just living the moment, focusing on getting by , lives just the day , saying tomorrow is not guarantee and he gotta find ways to survive then! He is never a responsible for the future.
As time goes by , you will feel like he's interesting just on how to make himself happy so focused on how to achieve the level of comfortably he wants , you never mattered.
Believe me, i lived the same situation, it's no problem for a boy to stay out all night, sleeping all day, he doesn't care about the future, never focused on tomorrow.
A man is concerned not only about his future, but also the future of the woman he’s dating. When conversations about the future come up, he doesn’t run away from them out of fear or intimidation. He has dreams and aspirations, and these goals include you.
A boy will not take your needs into consideration, he will promise you a better tomorrow when he's just thinking about today.
Don't settle for less than what you deserve. A boy wont settle down yet, he won't grow up just because he's getting old! Or because you want him to do...
* Talk To Me :
What's worse than dating a boy who ain't ready to grow up yet !
Did you ever experienced this type of relationships ???? Talk to me ...
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